I’m not a stranger to making monthly goals just like many other bloggers in the community. However, I’m not the best at succeeding at these goals. If you take a look at my past monthly updates, you’d see a pattern. This pattern includes me going through the goals that I have accomplished and then seeing that I have failed to accomplish the majority of my goals. I have often thought about just not posting monthly updates anymore or just doing them differently to where maybe I just didn’t add my monthly goals anymore. Then I realize…what exactly would that solve? I still won’t be accomplishing my goals. It’s just this time, I’ll be failing at accomplishing them in the company of me, myself, and I. The best thing to do is to think about why it’s so hard for me to accomplish my goals and maybe even figure out some solutions. Hence today’s post. I’m going to share some reasons I feel why I fail more than succeed at accomplishing my goals in hopes that I find a solution for myself and I help you guys who are struggling as well.
I don’t keep reminders. One of my issues is that I write down my monthly goals in a blog post and then I never look at them again. That is the WORST thing to possibly do. I try my best to remember to go back to the post and remind myself of my goals, but it barely ever happens. It’s almost like I write them and then say to myself “well that’s done” as if I don’t have to actually go through with the goals that I made, which is wrong.
A solution to make is to keep your goals somewhere close. It has to be somewhere that you look in often. If you have a whiteboard or wall calendar, then writing them down would be a great solution. That way, whenever you pass by it, you are reminded of your goals every day and that can help keep you accountable.
No Energy. Being someone that doesn’t do blogging as a career(as of yet) and having to have a full time job as well can really take a lot of energy. Depending on how I am scheduled, I could either have more days off that will mostly go to working on my blog along with resting, or I will have a lot more working days. Having more working days not only means I’m going to have a lot of my time and energy taken(with something I don’t enjoy I might add), but also that I have to figure out ways to make time to focus on my blog.
There is not too much of a solution when it comes to how you’re scheduled at work, but like I said earlier, figuring out ways to make time to focus on your blog is a good way to keep from dealing with burnout from the combination of your job and your blog. If you have a full time job like I do, then you have to schedule around your schedule. When I say this, I mean schedule the times you work on your blog around the schedule for your job. Most importantly, get plenty of rest! It’s ok to take a nap after work before hitting the blogging grind. Who doesn’t like a nap!? Also, coffee might just become your best friend as well. I know during some of my low energy days(and I have a lot of them) it really tends to pull through!
Laziness. There is a difference between just having no energy and pure laziness. I know because I struggle with laziness and I don’t mind admitting that to you guys. Laziness and procrastination has always been a big problem for me, so it’s no surprise that it plays a role in me not being able to accomplish my goals. For example, I often have, “go to the gym” as one of my goals. Sometimes I’m just too tired to wake up early and go to the gym. I do have some nights where I don’t get home until 1am from my job. However, sometimes I’m just too lazy to get up and I choose to stay in my bed instead. Laziness is like a disease and I’m for sure suffering from it.
The solution for my laziness and anyone else who also suffers from laziness is to simply stop being lazy. So, it may not exactly be that easy, but at the same time, it could be. The best way to tackle and cure laziness is to take it day by day. Remember, I’m writing this because I’m currently struggling with this issue, so that doesn’t mean I’ve overcome my laziness. It just means that you may fail and struggle for a while, but eventually, we’ll get rid of this dilemma.
I forget the why. I believe that laziness combined with this point makes it even harder for me to accomplish the goals that I make for myself. It’s pretty easy to sink into my laziness when I don’t remember why I made those goals for myself in the first place. Within those little goals is a big end goal that I ultimately want to get to, but it’s easy to forget that or brush it to the back of my mind when I don’t want to do something at that moment.
The solution for this one can go in hand with the solution for the very first point I made. As you’re writing down your goals somewhere you can see them, also write a side note of why you made that goal. You can even draw a little goal map or just something that helps you see the little picture as well as the bigger end goal.
Mental illness. Some people see mental illness as just an excuse being used to not do something, but they’re wrong and that’s pretty sad to have that mindset. Mental illness is very real and it can keep anyone from doing normal everyday tasks. I haven’t been diagnosed with a particular mental illness, but I do often struggle with anxiety. I also have moments where I end up in a depressive state and I just struggle to get up for the day…not because I’m lazy or have no energy from work…but because I have no energy mentally to perform any tasks for that day. It can be a real struggle and something that has held me back from getting things done when I need to.
A solution for this is something that isn’t unknown to being mentioned on this blog…seeing a professional. Going to a psychologist, therapist, counselor, etc. is the best way to help yourself when struggling with a mental illness. Even if you’re not necessarily struggling with a mental illness, it’s still a good way to talk things out when you’re struggling and to help you find your own reasons as to why you’re not accomplishing your goals and solutions that can fit your personal needs. A good example of where you could go to get help is Ray of Hope Counseling Services! They have many different services they provide including individual and family counseling. They offer therapy in Lawrenceville, Marietta, Alpharetta, and many other locations around Georgia, so you’re able to search and find a building closest to you. They want to help their clients with making life changes and to me, that sounds like the perfect solution.
This was a very well put together piece, and you were so relatable. I struggle with the same things, especially laziness. The laziness factor drives me up the wall, because logically, it should be really simple. DO this, DON’T do this. But, realizing that and actually putting it into action are so independent from each other. I have yet to find a good strategy to tackle this because no matter how determined I may be when I go to bed at night, I don’t remember that determination when I first try to wake up in the morning. I would love to see the insight of others in the community on how to tackle this.
I’m the same way! For example, I set out my clothes for the gym the night before, make sure my workout playlist is updated, have a whole routine together and everything but the next morning it’s like that all went away.
It feels good to not be alone (my husband is the opposite. If he needs to wake up or do something he can do it no problem.) It’s like this laziness is ingrained in us and it isn’t even 100% something that we are choosing to do, instead we are constantly fighting against it.
Explaining that last part is so hard to do sometimes. People automatically assume we’re trying to come up with an excuse.
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Hi found this post in Twitter and honestly can relate to most of the points mentioned here. I suffer from anxiety too and sometimes it’s just too much of a mental strain to get up and work, and then the guilt creeps in, because there’s so much to do but I just don’t have the strength! Thanks for sharing this post.
I understand that 100% or I just get frustrated because it takes me a while to start doing things and then I don’t get everything done when it seems like everyone else gets so much done in a day. I’m glad you found my post…thanks for reading ♥
Thank you for being candid. Regarding the reminders, I write them in my phone, my agenda, my bedroom calendar and my living room calendar. I even schedule hourly and daily reminders so I know I have to accomplish X task. You will accomplish your goals. In a way, you already are with your transparency and consistency within your blog. You’ve created a platform of honesty and positivity which is an incredible feat. We all are works in progress so pat yourself on the back 🙂
aw thank you. I need to be like you and set some reminders or something lol. Like you said, we’re all works in progress so I’ll get there one day ♥
You will 🙂 I would forget deadlines if I didn’t put them everywhere lol. Hopefully that helps.