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I Haven’t Been Honest With Myself: Opening Up About Not Being Motivated

As a blogger of three years and a follower of many other creatives/business owners, I have learned that it can become easy to feel a sense of motivation when seeing others share their successes. I have also learned that the sense of motivation doesn’t necessarily always last. It can always come and go until the next cycle hits you. Thus, the cycle then repeats.

I have also learned that when you’re so focused on getting your list of goals, it can become pretty easy to fake the funk. I become so engulfed in trying to get things off my checklist, and then I see businesswomen on my Twitter making tweets about how much they have to do or have done, so I’m taking it in like it’s fuel to kick ass in my own work. I think I’m so motivated and I tell myself I am, but after sitting in my little workspace for hours, I discover that not much has been accomplished. It’s sometimes discovered that nothing at all has been accomplished besides burning my eyes staring at a computer screen.

But wait…I did everything to create the perfect motivation elixir…

I like to make a cup of coffee because, although homemade coffee doesn’t give me the energy aspect, it does make me feel motivated and gives me the feeling that I’m a boss. I also like to have some form of music playing because it helps me get into the vibe. Depending on the mood I’m feeling, I either play Jazz or music from my Boss Girl Playlist. I even worked hard to create an office space with white walls, windows that bring in light, plants all around, and more! I should feel motivated every single day!

Yea…in my head…

Unfortunately, that is not the case and I have to be open and honest with myself about it. Here I thought that motivation was going to become more of a thing when I found something that I was passionate about…that statement is sadly false. Truthfully, I am just not motivated and I haven’t been for over a month. I may look like it to others who see me check off my to-do lists, but they don’t know it took about a month just to get there. I know I’m speaking pretty loud with this one, but motivation isn’t sitting in that cup of coffee. If it was, it wouldn’t take two of them, and it certainly isn’t going to be in the third.

Though it can be hard to become open and honest with yourself, there’s good news in doing so. The first bit of good news is that there’s a sense of relief that suddenly falls off of your shoulders. I’m still stuck a bit into this cycle of pretending that I feel motivated, but to be able to just say “I’m just not feeling it” instead of pretending is such a relieving feeling. The second bit of good news is that now, you don’t have to try and rely on a motivational feeling that just may never come back. I read a statement months ago and it said that you shouldn’t rely on motivation because it can come and go. This statement couldn’t be any more true and is the reason why I’ve started the work to push through this moment of no motivation.

To close this, I just want all of you who are reading this to remember that no matter how motivated someone may seem to look, things are possibly the complete opposite beneath the surface. If you’re not feeling motivated, then that’s okay! The thing that has been keeping me going isn’t motivation but instead my determination and drive to make it to the life I have planned for myself. You just have to find your own thing that keeps you going.

Is there something you suddenly realized you should be honest with yourself about? I would love to know what is and what made you come to that realization!


  1. I appreciate your honestly here. I try to keep my own blog full of uplifting content but I’m not always feeling it either. I think the best thing we can do in these situations is to be honest with ourselves and our audience. I feel like it keeps the burnout away.

    • It definitely helps to prevent burnout. I make sure to provide uplifting content, but with realism as well. Not everyone is happy all the time and people need to know that everyone has bad days and they’re not alone. Thank you so much for reading and commenting ♥

  2. Yes, motivation isn’t always the driver but willpower and just starting. I have realized no matter how I feel, even if I’m not motivated, I could just spend 5 minutes to start the task at hand and make the task look easy to do. The key here is to avoid burnout but remain consistent and determined.

    • You hit the nail right on the head with this comment! Avoid burnout but remain consistent and determined…so true. Whether you’re doing something big or small, you’re still doing something. Love this comment so much…thank you for reading and commenting ♥

  3. I understand completely. It can be so hard to stay motivated! Remember you are greatness and continue to strive to be the best!

  4. I love the transparency in this post. It’s sometimes frustrating to see other bloggers on social media talking about how they are being so productive and hitting all these goals. It’s refreshing to know there are times where bloggers do feel unmotivated. It’s human and something to never look down on.

    • I completely agree! It can put you in this space where you feel as if you’re not doing enough or you’re not good enough. I love having this space where I can be open and honest so others don’t feel as if they’re alone. I’m so glad you enjoyed my post and I thank you for reading and commenting ♥

    • Thank you so much! It truly is important because others need to know that they’re not alone. Even the most productive and successful people have their down days and struggles. It should definitely become more normal to share those things. Thank you so much for reading and commenting ♥

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