Are early midlife crises a thing? If they are, then I just might be having one!
I know I’m not in my 40’s or 50’s, but being almost 25, it literally feels like I’m going through a mini crisis at the moment. I was talking to my coworker the other day and she was just saying “Once you hit 25, time just zooms on by.”
DON’T TELL ME THAT!
As you can see, you can always count on your coworkers to be helpful (not!). I know I’m not the only one who’s having a crisis about turning 25. I mean that’s creeping closer and closer to 30! The question is though, why do so many of us go into this early midlife crisis? It’s not like there’s anything wrong with being 30. Some people even call it the “dirty 30’s”, but why do we freak out about getting up in age?
I know for me, it’s the issue of not feeling accomplished. I already know about the social clock, but there are still just some things you would at least hope of being on your way to getting accomplished. For me, it would at least be having my own car and being on my way to saving up for my own place. I don’t have my own car and the only thing I have saved up for either is…well…dust. I would also hope to be a tad bit further along with life career wise. I’m not saying I’d have my job secured (whatever that would’ve been) and everything, but I just feel like I’m floating. Granted, I know I’m currently working on a business, but until I’ve started getting income and can work for myself, I’m just…floating.
I think that’s the factor that us early midlife crisis havers have in common…we feel like we’re floating and nothing has been accomplished. I’m not speaking for everyone. Some people just don’t like the thought of getting older(I’m also in that group), but I do feel a lot of us just feel unaccomplished. It’s so easy to feel that way no matter what the age. That’s why I think the whole midlife crisis thing should just be changed to life crisis.
I’m not having an early midlife crisis. I’m having a life crisis.
You’re not having an early midlife crisis, you’re having a life crisis and it’s right on time. It’s on time because there is no certain time for a life crisis. We all go through it at some point…sometimes multiple times. Whether it’s because you feel you didn’t party enough or take enough risks, don’t have your life together when you feel you should, or are just really freaked out about getting older…it happens. Just know that there’s time. It doesn’t matter the age, as long as you’re breathing, there’s time.
Am I having a midlife crisis? No. I’m having a life crisis, but I still have time to get things together. I’m 100% going to still freak out and worry from time to time, but I’ll get there. And so will you.
I was there myself and I’m 40 now. And yes it’s hard sometimes when I see my kids are becoming young adults. I have been taking a good look at my life so many times nd I can tell you right now : 30 is way bette than the twenties!! You know yourself better and the choices becomes more well adjusted. I made my worst mistakes in my twenties and I will never go back. But enjoy every moment and don’t be afraid to take chances as long as no one gets hurt etc. Own your age hun❤️
Thank you love! ♥
I love this! As I approach my 60’s, I can concur that it is a life crisis. They just keep coming and it’s ok. It’s a career, relationships, college, kids, or menopause. I still haven’t saved enough money for a car … so what! Only you can measure your own success and happiness.
nothing but truth! Thank you for reading ♥
I can definitely relate to this post!! Thanks for sharing.
It’s awful to go through it for sure! And thanks for reading!
Hilary Tan says
A quarter-life crisis and yes, this is a thing. I experienced mine at the age of 27 (I’m 28 now)), and now I’m currently trying to pick up where I left off. You’re definitely not alone!
The feeling sucks, but the best thing to do it what you’re doing now. Just pick up where you left off and keep it moving. Things will get accomplished in your own pace!
I can definitely relate to this – I feel as though I’ve been going through this since I turned 25… I turn 28 this year and the feelings are still there! Thank you for sharing and letting me know I’m now alone! 😊
No problem! Hoping the feeling goes away for us both soon ♥
LaShawn Uchenna Ani says
I enjoyed your article, I am 44 years old and I can remember feeling this way. You are not having a mid life crisis. I have a daughter that is 24 and she feels the same way. The best advice I can give is trust the process you are exactly where you are supposed to be in life. God is in charge, if things were suppose to be different they would. One good thing about being 25, is you can always bounce back. The older you get the harder it is to bounce back. Trust your journey..Peace and blessings…Love
Thank you so much. I really appreciate that advice. Peace and blessing to you as well ♥
I can relate. My life crisis hit me at 25. I just turned 26 and feel weird that I’m closer to 30. However, I remind myself what I’ve accomplished so far. Also I tell myself I’m exactly where I need to be in life. You’ve got this! 💪🏾
Thank you so much for the inspiration!
Emily | That Weird Girl Life🐱 (@emahlee13) says
I completely get where you’re coming from! I think everyone goes through a life crisis every once in a while. I’ve gone through many and I’m only 30. I also think we have them because of societal pressure of what we “should” be doing, not what we WANT to be doing. I always wonder what’s wrong with me for not being married, not having a house, etc. like everyone else does. I have to remind myself that everyone else is on a different path from me, and I’m just going at my own pace. And being in your 30’s isn’t scary! I don’t know why people are so scared of it! In all honesty, I still feel like I’m 19, haha. I’m still that awkward and unsure about life! But you’re right, there is ALWAYS time. You can always change, make a new start, at whatever age. And you’ll get everything together, trust me. Well, not everything, because no one is perfect, but you’re pretty darn close! 😉
Thank you for sharing this with us and reassuring us (aka me) that this happens to everyone!!
Emily | https://www.thatweirdgirllife.com
aw thank you so much! You’re so sweet but I’m far from being close lol. And I’m sure I’m still going to be awkward and shy, but hopefully just a smidge bit more established and closer to getting to my long term goals. Thank you for reading ♥