Fathers day is this Sunday and although there are many strong women out there who are doing the best they can to do the job of both the mom and dad, sometimes it just doesn’t replace the void that can be left to those without a father. With that being said, today I decided to write a note to those without a father…either gone due to passing away or gone simply because they chose not to be in their child’s life. This one is for you.

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A note for those without fathers:

I, too understand what’s it like to be without a father. For those who are without one because he chose to not become a lasting part of your life…I relate to you. I relate to not having a father-daughter dance. I relate to not having that consistency in seeing a man show you how you should be treated. I relate to seeing others with their dads as a child and being sad because mines isn’t around. It can be hard sometimes. Some of you may be just fine. Some may have grown up to become angry or hurt. I think at the end of the day all of us in this situation may be left with a question….why? Why not be in our lives? Some may know the answer but wish they didn’t. At the end of the day, you have to come to realize that it’s not you who’s missed out the most, but he is. He’s missed out on seeing a young boy or girl turn into an amazing man or woman. He’s missing out on seeing how resilient you’ve become. He’s missed out on being a father and instead of doing it himself, let your mom or other father figures do it themselves. To me, that’s pretty cowardly and while he’s being a coward, you’re going to continue to get stronger and stronger.

For those that lost their dad due to death in some way, I can’t relate or even imagine what you’ve gone through and still are going through. There may be a void that your father used to fill. Maybe family dinners aren’t the same or barbeques no longer feel like they should continue. Your dad loved you and fathers day may be like a hard pill to swallow sometimes, but honoring him on fathers day could be the best thing you can do. Remember the good times you guys had. Life will never be the same, but keeping your dad close to your heart like I believe he kept you close to his heart can sometimes be the best thing to keep you making it through. If any of you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here.